If things work out with him, you will have ample time to share your pasts. He’s Working Through Stuff Divorced men may have a lot on their minds, including any unresolved grief, financial concerns, being a single parent, and generally trying to rebuild their lives.Some can manage these concerns and still have plenty to offer a new woman; others cannot.While you may have help that frees you up for the occasional vacation, dating with kids at different ages and stages can pose logistical and financial challenges, much like age-stage differences in the couple itself. Do listen if he says he isn't interested in helping to parent your kids, he's tired of you only being available for a weekend relationship, or he can't afford to pick up the financial slack for a single mother with children. So do Johnnie and Janie, Fido and Tabby, not to mention the hamsters, Mutt and Jeff.And that's despite the fact that you're working two jobs already, and he may be working two jobs of his own. The neighbors like him, too, and he and his ex seem very friendly.
It doesn’t matter if his comments are critical, complimentary, or just factual. A man who talks about his ex may only be grieving his marriage, but it’s also possible he’s grieving the ex herself (which means there’s no room for YOU).
When a man clearly indicates what is and isn't a deal breaker, we owe him the respect of honoring his choices. But something in your gut tells you he's too good to be true.
Remember that mention of the divorced dad who swept me off my feet?
grief, angry exes, hurting children, financial problems).
If he’s recently divorced, be cautious, take things slow, and make sure you get your needs met before getting too involved.