If you find yourself in a similar situation, use it to your advantage, and remember: having a child helps you sort people into a ‘worth it’ and ‘not worth it’ pile early on.Finally, a family isn’t incomplete just because it doesn’t fit in with traditional roles.Just because you fancy a date doesn’t mean you are looking for someone to fill a void.Also, for anyone dating a single parent, we aren’t necessarily looking for an immediate co-parent, we are looking for a date – those are two very different things.In the early stages of dating, that’s really none of anyone’s business. Know anyone you meet will be lucky to get such a fabulous two, three or however-many-it-might-be-for-one deal.You know your child is the best person ever so why assume another person will feel any different?
When I first started dating again after my son (who is now three) was born, my confidence and self-belief couldn’t have been lower.
For this reason, I wouldn’t introduce the person I am dating to my son as my ‘boyfriend’.
That said, it’s easier said than done to keep them totally apart, and often just not practical.
So the word ‘baggage’ needs to be replaced with ‘bonus’, because that’s a more accurate description.
Never think that you are doing anything wrong by wanting some time for yourself.