Now, imagine this: a group of seven teenagers are at the movies. Laughing and shouting, their friends subtly try to push the two toward each other. Though dramatically different, both scenarios are completely natural. How two people treat each other reflects who they are as human beings. Despite the advantages of high school relationships, it’s necessary to know when to draw the line with high school couples.
The unspoken tension between two of them is obvious. High school relationships have no routine, no habit, and no pattern. More important are the benefits that come alongside teen dating. Lisa Damour, a psychologist and director of Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, “the main benefit of teen dating, whether it be in a group or as a pair, is that the dating teens are spending ‘in person’ time together.” In the world of dating, face-to-face interaction is eventually inevitable. Although the path to self-discovery might be onerous, dating helps to push past the roadblocks. Let’s take a hypothetical situation: a boy asks a girl to a dance. Damour advises adults to, “talk to parents of slightly older teens about current dating conventions so that they have a realistic yardstick for what to expect for their own teen’s dating life.” If you’re worried, talk.
It was dangerous how effective these techniques were at conjuring a fresh text from Ryan.
Still, in the weeks that followed, he was always busy when I asked to see him, always neglecting to text back.
So imagine my sheer delight when said high-school crush — let’s call him Ryan — relocated to New York City and asked me, after months of liking my selfies, if I wanted to “hang out.” I’d come so far, emotionally and dermatologically, and now I could finally show him.
As we made plans, I felt my heart flutter just as it had when I noticed him at the other end of the orchestra classroom.
* * * As so many good tantrums do, it began with a selfie.
Here are just four reasons high school dating is good for teenagers. High school dating relaxes the barrier that social media seems to create. Teens who experience a variety of relationships in high school will be more prepared for college and adulthood. Talk to your friends, talk to an expert, and talk to your teenager. Also learn to recognize the signs of trouble in your teenager’s dating relationship. If that’s the case, dislodge the nagging fear that your teen will die in the company of twenty-seven cats. Your goal is to support your teen, while still looking out for his or her best interests.
Teenagers are able to experience companionship that extends far beyond Facebook and Instagram. Dating in high school exposes people to different personalities, different traits, and different ways of life. It’s easier said than done, but with communication and compromise,both you and your teenager can appreciate the true advantages of high school dating.
Each moment not spent agonizing over AP Biology was spent agonizing over the argyle sweaters he wore, the Radiohead remixes he listened to, the string quartet his parents forced him to rehearse for until his fingers bled.
Everything about him was so awkwardly romantic; so unlike his snot- and pot-covered peers.