The majority of my divorced clients, most of whom were married for 15-25 years, quickly discover that the modern dating scene is very different from what they once remember.
Add to this, that many divorcees admit they never really “dated” much before getting married, and so post-divorce they also find themselves having to how to date.
And so, as hard as it is to have a relationship end (even when it’s for good reasons) having the opportunity to date to find a new partner who may be a much better match can be a wonderful thing.
Add to this, that most older women would say they know themselves better, have developed better relationship skills, and are more established in their careers.
Depending on the nature of your divorce, and how much time has gone by, you may be more or less open to actively looking for love.It is also important however, to understand that dating after a divorce is unique and multifaceted.In many cases, divorced women who are starting to date experience two processes simultaneously – on the one hand, they may still be recovering from an ended marriage (this can a long time, and is natural,) while on the other hand, they are ready to move forward, date and embrace their new singleness.Furthermore, Dweck states that true healing can only occur when we are in this mindset.However, if despite your efforts, you find that you are unable to make this shift on your own, seek out professional help such as a therapist and/or a coach, develop a yoga and mindfulness practice, and emerge yourself in a supportive environment with like-minded people and uplifting content (books, audios, podcasts, etc.) In addition to feeling better in your everyday life, your experience of dating will be radically different.