My friend’s daughter, who also recently split from her high school boyfriend of three years, cited distance as the main cause of their break up.
She explained that, “Texting constantly was becoming a bit of a hassle and we found that checking our phones became less of a priority as we became more caught up in our lives at school.” Another reason that high school relationships often fail is that college is a period of tremendous growth, perhaps more so than any time in a person’s life.
With everything new and uncertain, there is comfort in maintaining a connection to the familiar.
Additionally, without the pressure to date, there is more time to concentrate on studies and school activities.
Dating beyond your “type” can also lead to new friendships and introduce you to different groups on campus. Freshmen, however, are usually a bit more reluctant to leave traditional dating behind.
However, once back on campus, with busy schedules which included Greek life for both of them as well as many other activities, it became harder to sustain their bond.
They broke up Thanksgiving of sophomore year, which was emotionally tough for both of them.
Another friend, whose son also had a high school girlfriend when he went to college and experienced a heart-breaking split at the end of his junior year, made the excellent point that smart phones and technology do not necessarily make long-distance relationships easier or better.
Being able to text, Skype and Snapchat create an illusion of being close, yet the intimacy required to stay together may still be elusive.