You do not want to get into an all-out fight with a sociopath when the sociopath feels like his survival is threatened. With a sociopath, the best thing to do is to make the breakup seem like it was his or her choice.
Like with ticks or other parasites, you want to poison the well so the sociopath willingly leaves.
This may seem very passive-aggressive, but after about three months (give or take), the sociopath will be out of your life.
You should be in the clear after your sociopath has been gone three to six months.
You may think you owe him nothing, but the relationship matters to the sociopath in ways you cannot guess or understand.
You may think the sociopath respects your boundaries, but the sociopath will not be sympathetic to your assertions of your needs. The sociopath has his needs, too, and will fight to make sure that they are met.
Let’s be exclusive and see where it goes.” So I committed myself into an exclusive relationship that I wasn’t 100% into. It wasn’t readily apparent at first, but after about 3 months I felt like I was putting in all the energy to try and keep the relationship together.
I felt as though I didn’t really know what she was thinking or how she was feeling – it was almost like I was dating someone I didn’t really even know.
She said she loved me, but it just wasn’t working anymore. Then I went out, got drunk with my buds and hooked up with the first girl I could find. In fact, it had almost nothing to do with my ex or the relationship and everything to do with how I thought of myself.
Say "I don't know what's come over me." Have long phone conversations with your mother or other people the sociopath hates.
In general, let yourself go completely and be as intolerable to live with as possible without being confrontational.
I don’t want to sound heartless, but I started to lose my attraction to him.
Breaking up is never clean, but there are definitely good and bad ways to do it. In the same way that I caution women against being needy, the type of behavior you are describing here is the male equivalent (the paranoia, accusations, need for reassurance that you like him, etc.) I’m going to tell you a story.