New research shows it is better to be real with your information than trying to be perfect. In fact, researchers at the University of Iowa say people who are looking for love online are less apt to trust a person with a flashy profile, preferring instead a potential partner who appears not only successful, but humble and real as well. “It’s tough when it comes to dating profiles because we want someone who seems like an amazing person, but we also hopefully will have a relationship with this individual, so we want them to exist.”As many as one in 10 Americans age 18 and older use online dating sites or a mobile dating app—according to a 2013 study by the Pew Research Center.
High and Crystal Wotipka, lead author of the study and graduate teaching assistant in the UI’s Department of Communication Studies, wanted to know how people who use these sites respond to different ways people present themselves online.
There are sites you pay to join and free sites, sites aimed at fostering long-term relationships and sites with reputations for finding casual hookups.
If youre looking for something specific, the Internet can probably help, with options such as Christian Mingle, which trademarked the phrase, Find Gods Match for You, and Our Time, reserved for romantics over age 50. Try a site like Farmers Only or Glutenfree Singles.
I know plenty of couples who have told me that if they saw their significant others profile, they probably wouldnt have chosen them off a dating site.
Our online selves are idealized versions of who we want to be, not portraits of who we actually are. Anecdotally, I got a huge number of responses when I asked my Facebook network for online dating success stories.For starters, two of my cousins told me they met their spouses online.That was news to me (proving my earlier point about the persevering stigma).According to a 2013 report from the Pew Research Center, 21 percent of polled Internet users agree that People who use online dating sites are desperate. More heartening, though, is the fact that thats an 8-point decline from the 29 percent of people who thought the same in 2005. According to the same Pew report, one in 10 American adults has used an online dating site, and 38 percent of single people actively looking for a partner have used an online dating site. Before e Harmony and Match.com, there was a computer-based dating program developed in 1965 by a group of students at Harvard, who thought matchmaking was an excellent use of the exciting new computer technology available to them.Thousands of people sent the students and completed questionnaires.