A good marriage can never be based on how the other makes me feel.Good marriage is based on my caring for and loving the other, even when it doesn’t always feel good to me. Above I said that good people are good people no matter where you find them, but if you begin to think you might want to spend the rest of your life raising children with someone, then religion is very important.Some lucky few have relationships with parents or spiritual mentors that are close enough and mature enough to provide some guidance and advice in the search for a mate. Even if they do ask for advice or guidance from a priest or parent or other responsible person, many young people are merely seeking confirmation for what they already feel or think or lust for.So this is where we start: one priest’s dating guide for Orthodox Christians.This allowance did not have in mind an Orthodox boy choosing a Baptist girl because she’s hot.
This does not mean that you do not hang out with people who are not perfect; that’s ridiculous, no one is perfect.For most people, when things are going well religion is not a very important part of their life (no matter how strenuously they protest that it is). It records the common experience of God’s people: when things are going good (when we “grow fat”) we ignore God.When we feel like things are going well, and nothing feels better than being in love, God drifts to the background, and we basically ignore God. However, marriage, as many have observed, is the remedy for falling in love.What it means is that you look for Christ-like virtues: kindness, gentleness, self control, faith, joy, etc.People with these qualities or who are seeking these qualities will help you develop these qualities.