At the age of 19, he gave himself a homework assignment when he was off from college.
You may hate yourself totally for one or a few rejections — but, if so, you arrantly over-generalize, as Alfred Korzybski said in in the 1950’s.If they now don’t do so, that only shows that they presently reject your presence — and not for all time or not by all possible partners.There can always be a tomorrow — so you keep risking failure until you sometimes succeed. Does what you said in 1952 about overcoming severe shyness by approaching possible female partners, as you did when you were 19 years-old, still hold true?Is in vivo desensitization risk-taking still the way to go? Ellis answers: Yes, using in vivo desensitization risk-taking interrupts irrational self-talk like, “I must not be rejected! My whole worth as a person rests on my being approved!