Does what you said in 1952 about overcoming severe shyness by approaching possible female partners, as you did when you were 19 years-old, still hold true?
Is in vivo desensitization risk-taking still the way to go? Ellis answers: Yes, using in vivo desensitization risk-taking interrupts irrational self-talk like, “I must not be rejected! My whole worth as a person rests on my being approved!
You may do rejectable things, but you are never totally rejectable or worthless.
Someday you may act acceptably — especially if you keep persistently trying with in vivo risk-taking. Yes, you may have done badly this time but you are not what you did.
By using in vivo desensitization, you see that this equation is false and that it’s highly desirable to have selected partners favor you, but it is not necessary that they do.He’s homeless, shoeless and doesn’t smell too good, but she agrees to meet him again and before she knows it they’re dating.But Julia and Ben are complete opposites and Julia never imagined she’d be in a relationship with someone like Ben.He spoke to the remaining 100 — for the first time in his life — about the birds and the bees, the flowers, books, whatever came to mind.Al later said, "If Fred Skinner, who was then teaching at Indiana University, had known about my exploits, he would have thought I would have got extinguished, because of the 100 women I made one date — and she didn't show up!